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Now there may be some of you that are thinking that’s my family member “Joe”. While there are others of you that are thinking I have someone at my work who is like this! Well that is why I decided to dive into this. Doesn’t matter where you go you are bound to find at least one person who is passive-aggressive.
1. Recognize that it is actually passive-aggressive behavior
Passive-aggressive behavior is defined as indirect resistance to the demands of others and an avoidance of direct confrontation. It is very important that you recognize that it is actually this because if it is some other behavior then these tips won’t work.
2. Stay Calm/Don’t Overreact
When this person is getting to you with their behavior don’t snap back. That will only make things worse. What you will want to do is look for a different way to approach the situation. Think of it like this:
3. Notice how the person makes you feel & don’t take it personally
Stay calm, most of the time they are just looking to be superior rather than having a strong connection with you. Don’t allow that, also don’t allow them to see you as the so called evil, just so so they can feel good about themselves.
4. Be Positive
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As much as you will want to join the passive-aggressive person in their negativity. DON’T! It is hard to be negative when you are surrounded by people who are positive.
5. Be Assertive
6. Confront Behaviors
When it comes to mild situations try joking around that might defuse them. A mild situation might be one where they are just ignoring you. Find an appropriate bit of humor that would work that won’t offend them and make things worse.
For more serious situations also for work document EVERYTHING. You are going to want a paper trail of everything as proof as to what is going on. Without that its he said she said and that just causes more drama.
For this one I leave you with this:
You don’t know what anyone else is dealing with other than yourself. So empathize with them because their situation could be a million times worse than yours.
8. Don’t Try To Change Them
You could spend days, weeks, months even years trying to convince this person that they are passive aggressive and try to change them but it will just be a waste of your time. These type of people don’t see what they are doing (as wrong) so you will NEVER be able to change them.
9. Avoid Them
Last but certainly NOT least just avoid them. These people are volatile and not safe to be around. They are the ones that will smile to your face and then stab you in your back when you turn around. Just avoid that toxic behavior, believe me you will thank yourself when you realize those toxic people you didn’t need in your life.
If you can think of any other ways I’d love to hear about them in the comments below. Also don’t forget to share this!